AM: I’m angry with the lady who blasted me, because…
Betty: So, she went into high sea on her fears. It was highly judgmental. It’s like a spirit of fear speaking itself. So, the woman is really taken over by fear, the poor baby. A lot of times when people react like she did, they’re overreacting. And grace is such that as they move away from their overreaction, grace sometimes then works on their heart. She was being judgmental of you, but then you, in turn, are being judgmental of her. It’s like, “No.” See, the Lord is merciful to us. We’ve done all kinds of crazy things. He gives us time to think about it and come back with a repentant, humble heart. It’s good for us to learn to treat other people that way as well. Her rage is coming out of her fear. That doesn’t mean that that’s the way she remains. But she definitely is an over-reactor.
AM: She’s not someone that…
Betty: You gotta watch what you’re doing. You’re trying to justify your action. No. What is the better way of acting? It’s to recognize that a person is under the influence of fear and in total reaction. But for the grace of God, that could be you. Personally, I think I would be inclined to pray for her. Ask the Lord to help her move to a better place out of fear and reconsider where she is In her overall view of the relationship.
AM: Again, I don’t talk to her that much. I’m giving you the raw feelings that came up.
Betty: This quick tendency is something you need to work on. You don’t like judgmental people. And yet, I think the reason they irritate you so much is aren’t we talking about a heavy judgmental side that you see acting right now? And you don’t like it in others. As you and I know, that which we really get irritated with in others is so often in ourselves. So, I think it’s really, “Thank you, Jesus for this exposure of my own judgmental side.”
AM: She was trying to be all sweet on the outside, but she’s got a heavy judger inside.
Betty: Don’t you? Aren’t you sweet and lovely on the outside? What about a possibility that the Lord is giving you a great grace, namely showing you a side of yourself that you’d rather not see? That woman was quite a gift to you. You need to thank the Lord for that happening. Because how would you have found that out accept for her help?
AM: I already knew it was in me.
Betty: Don’t detach. Sometimes I see you draw back and isolate from yourself. Could you connect AM again? You’re looking at this as case 265. That is a good protective mechanism. I try it myself. It’s not really standing in my integrity when I do it. So, I’m not proud of it. Would you mind opening the door to your heart? Are you back in the body? Knowing we’re in the presence of the Lord, would you like to turn to Him in prayer?
AM: “So, Lord, I do thank you that you are showing me this judgmental, mean side that hurts people whether knowingly or unknowingly.”
Betty: Now hold it. You notice I didn’t call you judgmental and mean. But boy did you really lay it out heavy. I think we’re close to the Perfectionist here. Because that’s the way she acts on you. She’s really cutting. I don’t like to see her do that to you. So, can you say, “Lord, thank you for helping me to get in touch with this part inside that beats me up when I meet somebody out here that has a similar kind of a thing as me. I’m really hard on them. Let me hold this poor woman up to you. Please heal her of any of my rage and anger that she picked up on that day. Help her forgive me for my disappointment and my quickness to judge her right back. I didn’t like the image she had of me. I don’t like that part of me. I really don’t want to deal with it. But thank you for being here with me, because it is the part of me that needs to be cleansed. I can see where I can’t bring that into my union with you. Help me Lord to stand in the truth, despite the pain, and to see myself what is reflected back in my reaction to others. Help me not run from it.” Go into tongues and see what’s happening.
Is there someone in your life who has a similar weakness to you that you’re judging? Can you say, “Lord, thank you for helping me to get in touch with this part inside that beats me up when I meet somebody out here that has a similar kind of a thing as me. Please heal them of any of my rage and anger that they pick up in me. Thank you for being here with me, because this is the part of me that needs to be cleansed. I can see where I can’t bring that into my union with you. Help me Lord to stand in the truth, despite the pain, and to see myself what is reflected back in my reaction to others. Help me not run from it.”