Betty: God has his ways of making us decide to get out of our messy places. It’s like when a dog goes to the bathroom in the wrong place. What do people do to break that habit before it starts?

AM: They put the dog’s nose in it.

Betty: Yeah. I think God is putting your nose in your own crap tonight. And I don’t blame you. I don’t like the smell of it either. Can we get out of here? “I hear this part of you saying, “After all, X started it all. Make her smell it.” If I listen to you, I’ll be in here forever.

AM: Blah, blah, blah. She says,…

Betty: I hear, “After all I’ve done for you and everybody, look at the way you’re treating me.” You two are so good for each other. Because you both have the same kind of faults at times. You really get stuck together. The way you can help the situation is to let Jesus take care of her stuff. Now, you open to let Jesus work with you on yours. That way once you guys take your responsibility, you can let the rest take care of itself. 

AM: I just want her to take her own responsibility.

Betty: Well, it must be time for you to get some stuff up that you haven’t been wanting to get up. And I think it’s true with X. So, the Lord is letting you help each other get your junk up. And it really irritates you when X goes into those places. So, I can see where it helps the two of you when you get stuck in each other.

AM: How does it help us?

Betty: You both have to face the crap and not run away.

AM: I do face mine. I have opportunities every single week. I’m not in a shortage of finding crap. There’s always more to be found.

Betty: Well, it just makes you move more, because when you get stuck with her, it helps both of you.

AM: She’s unsafe and fragile.

Betty: Well, that might be a projection on your part of where you are right now. It’s like you’re not safe to talk to, because your stuff is coming up. You really have to work through your stuff before you can talk to her.

Turn to the Lord, and let Him teach you what you need to learn about yourself. Repent of it, and then this problem won’t be there, so you can talk it out and stand in your adult. But when your Perfectionist gets in there, the two of your Perfectionists really get into a dark place, because you both want to be perfect. It’s like you both are saying, ”So, would you take this fault?” “No, no, this fault belongs to you.” “No, no. It’s yours.”

Don’t you notice something? The fact that you’re working with it, you’re the one that’s getting the healing. So, stop complaining and thank the Lord for the healing.