Betty: This is a good occasion for you to talk to X about these kind of people. There are people in the world that will react that way. Learn how to handle them and not let them stop you from being who you are. See, I look at moments like that as opportunities of grace.

AM: But…

Betty: Yeah, but see stop and look at the fact that God permitted this. So, there’s meant to be something good coming out of it. One good thing is X is learning that part of maturing is to learn that there are people like he met with Y. Help X learn how, when these things happen, not to allow his mind to stretch them out of fear and a whole bunch of things that could happen. You learn the good you can from the thing. Then, you ask the Lord to you help you bring out the truth if that’s for X’s good, so that something can happen in the future.

Be very careful with your mind that tends to want to blow it up beyond where it is. And then you do make it into something bigger.

AM: The lady…

Betty: Well, no, wait a minute. You’ve got to watch. Don’t go too far yourself. It doesn’t necessarily mean she lied. But in her insecurity she blew it up beyond where it needed to go. Try not to blow it up more than it needs to be blown up. Keep that as your guideline. You want to put this in perspective, because it’s getting out of hand. 

AM: I know but it does make me uncomfortable around…

Betty: Well see, you’ve got to watch that perfectionism in you. You don’t want to encourage that in yourself. It’s not good to carry this on. This is an accident. This can happen in human relationships without it being a huge thing. Even with good will, everybody makes mistakes. I don’t care who they are. You don’t want X to get perfectionistic. He doesn’t need that. You might take this occasion to teach X what you do when things like this happen. You go to Jesus and say, “Jesus, please help me not to miss the good that you want to come out of this. Because I know you would not allow it to happen, but that you want good.” See, you really want to get that principle into X while he’s open. Because as we go through life, if we adopt that attitude, we can grow in wisdom in the hardships that everybody runs into.

If you’re going through a challenge, pray, “Jesus, please help me not to miss the good that you want to come out of this. Because I know you would not allow it to happen, but that you want good.”