Betty: Lift up that whole thing that happened years ago and ask the Lord to help you forgive yourself. See, that Perfectionist could be causing some harm.

AM: Yeah, my biggest mistake was…

Betty: But on the other hand, there is Romans 8:28. So, take that whole history of that mess, and roll it up in a bundle, and put it at the foot of the cross. Will to let it go from your controller. Tell her she has no business messing with it. Tell her you want it under the total control of Jesus Christ who suffered and died a miserable death to help get you and the family free of that mess. You don’t want that arrogant part of you messing with it. Can you put that in a pray?

AM: “Lord, help me leave this at the foot of your cross, and help me not to keep grabbing back onto it trying to condemn myself and go into the “what ifs” and “if onlys.”

Betty: Well, see the arrogant part is saying, “You gotta heal that.” No. You gotta let it go into the hands of Jesus, so that Jesus can bring about what healing is truly needed on everyone’s part. Again, I’m hearing the words, “Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.” That is very accurate for what went on.

If the door opens to your deep anger at X and Y, image, think, and feel that anger going to the cross, and let God deal with them. But don’t let your self-righteous part that we were praying about take over. Because she’s gonna make a mess.

I’m hearing the words, “Jesus, You are my only hope. Do within me that which I cannot do. Help me let you take over and stop meddling in this mess.” Part of your anger at yourself is being powerless. There was nothing you could do to stop what was going on. And this demanding part of you is saying, “I should have been able to stop it.” Part of me wants to say back, “You can if you stop playing God, and hand it over.” But I feel that part of you is too proud and doesn’t want to step back and give it to God, but wants to solve the problem herself.

AM: No, I definitely don’t want that part taking over.

Betty: Well then, let the humble part of you pray and ask God to free up this. Image “my life’s regrets” like a huge box at the foot of the cross, and think what they are and image them going into that “LET GO” box. Anything your gut tells you that you gotta let go, keep putting those in the box. I keep seeing the words, “Let go. Let God.” Put those words on the box, Keep putting stuff that comes out of your unconscious that you need to let go and let God. Keep filling up that box. The experience is it feels like you’re gonna learn something new about your relationship with God. I think you’re gonna learn how to let go and let God. It’s funny. You’re going to be better off when you do this. So, your controller must have really been part of your problem here.