AM: It’s hard with X, because... 

Betty: Whoa, whoa, whoa. If you’re gonna do something for Jesus, do it for Jesus. 

AM: It’s like she’s saying… 

Betty: Okay, so let her have that joy. It’s not the end of the world. I hope that God will move you to allow him to heal you of it and not have to carry it around and bump into it and hurt yourself. Get rid of it. 

What are you going to do to let this go so it doesn’t influence your life? It’s like, “Okay, you’re saying X has faults?” But we can’t do anything about X. If you want to look at it and say, “What am I doing that I am caught up in this? I can just give X to Jesus and move on. What’s going on here? What am I insisting on Jesus doing? Why am I holding on to this instead of focusing on what Jesus wants of me? I’m using X’s faults as an excuse for not being at onement with the will of the Lord.“

It’s not good for you. That’s what I’m seeing. I’m wondering why you want to do this to yourself. It’s like you’re punishing yourself, because you’re angry at her. Now, you can’t make God change X because she’s giving you difficulty. It’s like “Okay, so she’s in my life, because there’s something I need to change and grow out of. So, go into tongues. Try and get a translation. 

Let’s work on the stickiness in you that you’re being held back. You’re focusing on her. I’m not saying she doesn’t have faults. She does. But if I let myself focus on everybody’s faults in this house, I sure wouldn’t have all the joy and peace I have.  If they had to change for me to be happy, forget it. No, we can’t do that. And the Lord’s not gonna take it as an excuse if I get up there and say, “Well, you know, I really wanted to work with your will. But Sister X wouldn’t let me, because she was spreading these rumors about me and they’re not true. Jesus would look at me like, “What? What’s that have to do with your choice to obey me and be one with me? It has nothing to do with it.”  

If you have someone you’re struggling with, you can say, “What am I doing that I am caught up in this? I can just give X to Jesus and move on. What am I insisting on Jesus doing? Why am I holding on to this instead of focusing on what Jesus wants of me? I’m using X’s faults as an excuse for not being at onement with the will of the Lord.“