Below in red are my Aunt Betty’s words to me on how to handle a situation where I got caught with another person:
Ask the Lord to help you close the doors that are open between you and X that causes you to feel uncomfortable around her. She wouldn’t be able to do that unless there was some door open between the two of you that needs to be closed. You both have something inside of you that needs to be healed. Pray and ask the Lord to help you be a source of healing for people who are suffering from whatever it is that’s hooking you, rather than being repulsed by them. You can recognize people have their stuff, but you don’t have to take it on. You can stand in your own person, and just recognize their need. You don’t have to take their needs on. Ask the Lord for that grace.